Stanley (nicknamed Merman), and I are both from South Africa.
I met him when he vacationed in South Africa. He had lived in America for the past 20 years, had an established life there, and an ex-wife (Carolyn) and then fourteen year old daughter (Alex). We were together all of 2 weeks when he left but invited me to join him in Boston.
I felt drawn to his proposal but also very conflicted, having very recently returned to South Africa (the previous 7 years spent living in Greece and England). I felt happy and grateful to be back home in South Africa, at a time of tremendously exciting social and political change and felt I wanted to spend my life there.
